"I am stiff quite fond of her, and I have no hard feelings.."

I found that amusing for some strange reason...:)

I had (one can only hope to be able to use the past tense) a similar problem only the guys I dated would decide to come out of the closet after dating me. One would have thought I would try to curb my attraction to guys who take longer to get ready than I do.

Oh, how I want to call and bring your attention to the "stiff" typo, but it's 6:30 there and you're probably too busy shaving your chest, or making double-gun gestures with your hands in the mirror.

hmm.....you've already got 5 under your belt eh?
i'm only on number 3...well 3.5 (one of them is in a long-long-term relationship)

maybe you should write a book ( "dating me: one step closer to the ball and chain")

i have a string of three exes who got married immediately after dating me. there were two more who got engaged, but haven't yet tied the knot.

like you, i started joking that i should start a company called "transition girl, inc." and try to make a profit.

kim and melly

this is what happens when you write these things at midnight.

and halcyon was sending me trailers for porn. so blame halcyon. i was distracted by porn. and his highlighter hair.

*Like dating me illuminates everything a woman doesn't want in a man, leaving her fully prepared to find what she does want.*

ouch. thanks for the memories. now i want to scream and break things...

I dunno. You seem like solid marriage material to me. I'm just sayin'.

No way - you absolutely cannot look at the performance of five women with whom you're no longer romantically involved as a sign of anything.

First, women hear clocks ticking much louder than men do; eggs have a shelf-life, after all, or at least one that's shorter than the genetic material contributed by men. That ticking is bound to affect some of us.

Secondly, it doesn't matter where they went and how it turned out, like old blue jeans that weren't a perfect fit anyhow, sent to Goodwill. So they were realized into some other happy thing -- it wasn't meant to be for you at that point in time. Keep shopping for those perfect blue jeans, the ones that fit an international-man-of-mystery perfectly.

She's out there, Jimbo; she'll arrive when the time is right. Keep the faith.

My parents had a somewhat impulsive wedding as well. They were married 6 months after meeting and have been married for 30 years!

I just found out yesterday that a guy I used to date just got married a month ago to someone he met right after we stopped dating. How funny! But his name is Derrick, it's Rick. OMG Maybe she married him, and his name is really Derrick? What if? Hey, he doesn't work for INS does he?

Yes, pink anything is distracting. A double dose o' pink? (Hair and porn) Surefire distraction.

I moved 2100 miles to be with my boyfriend, whom I had met just 2 months prior online. This coming turkey day will be three years since I joined him in hell. (Florida)

It will happen when the timing is right! Hang in there:)

Most guys like me and then I bring out the absolute worst in them. Exciting huh!

As the proud entrant of a semi-impulsive marriage (left a 10-year relationship for my husband, engaged 6 months after starting dating, married 4 months later) that is now on the decline, I thought I'd throw in my $0.02. Like Aly, I have profoundly strong instincts about such stuff. And I wasn't wrong at the time -- things have just changed since then and the wasband and I just aren't ideal marital partners. So maybe Aly's marriage will last and maybe it won't. The important thing is that it's what she genuinely wants right now.

As for your record, it may also be a function of age. If you're tending to date women all in that late-20s-early-30s group, the chances are pretty darned high that they'll want to get married soon...

Hmmm...I don't know Jim, seems like we are in the same boat with the ex's marrying the next person they date after us. You know, maybe we should date and then we'll both be up next for marriage! I know, I know, it's got probability working for it, but not logistics. Ah well, it was worth a shot!

Yours get married.

Mine go into the S/M Fetish scene (3 of them)

It's like they say, "I am no longer with Ed. I must now pierce my nether regions and ask people to whip me."

Weird how women tend to put the biggest, most life changing things as a "BTW". The trivial gossip gets paragraphs, but "Hey, I got married" is a "PS" and a "BTW".

I've only been "BTW"'d once. By my mom. I had just gotten back from vacation. She gave me a full account of the progress of her rose bushes. Then: "PS: BTW, I gave your cats away." The cats which I had entrusted in her care while I was on vacation.

Yeah. Hi. Wrong. Back up. Just...back up.

I dread the BTW.

I once worked for a guy who had his three previous long term relationships become buddhist after leaving him - he was relieved I was already buddhist.

My exes don't get into S/M, I tend to get them into it.

The BTW phrase for a bombshell is perfect to work on exes, especially when you think they might still carry a flame for you - I have done it once myself, it was fucking priceless: (I had just returned from 5 months travelling) BTW, I got married.

ok, i won't point out the obvious of what happened when i married someone so quickly...but i'll tell ya' there were a lot of ppl in my world who got BTW i got married e-mails too...they just weren't around to tell in person and/or didn't/wouldn't have approved in the first place and i didn't want to deal with the lectures. :P

I'm at three myself. In fact, when looking at my current girlfriend when we're having a fight and the end seems near, I wonder what the next guy (her husband obviously) will be like. Perhaps between the two of us we can raise that 50% marriage rate a bit...